#healing, Curveballs, healing, Heart, Hope, Life matters, love, Soul journey

Christmas for the broken-hearted…. a tale of finding light after loss

While for many of us, Christmas will be a very, or relatively, merry affair, for some, it may not. If you have lost a loved one, a job, your good bill of health, your home, or your relationship over the last year, then Christmas might involve coping with that empty chair, or that other gaping… Continue reading Christmas for the broken-hearted…. a tale of finding light after loss

#healing, Being empowered, Feeling good, healing, Heart, Hope, Joy, Life medicine, Mental Health, Modern science, Natures nurture, poetry

The medicine of JOY…

In his books about the physiological effects of love, hope, positivity, and joy, on his patient’s recoveries, American oncologist, Dr. Bernie Siegel , leaves the reader in no doubt that these elements are important medicines for the human body. Having read his classics, Love, Medicine and Miracles and Peace, love and healing, I found his… Continue reading The medicine of JOY…

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“It’s OK to not be OK,”… but is the RESPONSE to that admission causing more hurt than healing?

We’ve all heard the message, ‘It’s OK to not be OK’, to reach out, to tell someone how you feel… but the response to such a statement can perhaps be as vital as the admission itself, for the one who is seeking healing. I recently watched a documentary called ‘The Weight of Gold’ narrated by… Continue reading “It’s OK to not be OK,”… but is the RESPONSE to that admission causing more hurt than healing?

Divine Inspiration, healing, Heart, Hope, love, poetry, Soul journey

‘For You’ by Pauline O’Shea

It was a week where the poet in me emerged to the public, finally out of my chrysalis, ready to flap my poetic wings through the use of technology to express my inner world... I hope that readers enjoy 'For You'... ©Pauline O’Shea If you would like to see more poems by Pauline, please click… Continue reading ‘For You’ by Pauline O’Shea

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The PSYCHOLOGICAL impact of illness… why we need to HEAL OUR MINDS, as well as our BODIES!

Last week I had the pleasure of being part of a presentation and discussion on the psychological impact of diagnosis. It’s a topic close to my heart, having experienced all manner of psychological fallout to my own misdiagnosis, eventual diagnosis and horrendous legacy of both, from stress and anxiety, to lows and PTSD (more on… Continue reading The PSYCHOLOGICAL impact of illness… why we need to HEAL OUR MINDS, as well as our BODIES!

#curveballs, Feeling crap, Heart, Life medicine, Mental Health, Modern science, My medical world, Patient journey

FATIGUE… a battle best shared than hidden…

As I write this week, I am sitting on a couch recovering. I’ve not been sick as much as I have hit a wall in terms of my health, that large metal wall, unbendable and unmerciful, that allows no progress forward bar breathing and if you are lucky the use of your digits. In the… Continue reading FATIGUE… a battle best shared than hidden…

#healing, Being empowered, Good reads, Heart, Life matters, Patient journey, Words of wisdom

Sorry, but I NEED to say “NO!”

It’s been a manic few weeks in my world, as I am sure it has been for many of you. September, with it’s new ‘opening up’ and ‘returning to normal’ strategies has seen lots begin again and anew for us. For me, it meant, one child embarking on college, two others returning to school, patient… Continue reading Sorry, but I NEED to say “NO!”

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“But you look so ‘NORMAL’!!!”… the need to redefine ‘NORMAL’ to bring HEALING.

But for this blog, many of you would be unaware that I live with heart failure, or that my marriage ended. To the regular person on the street, the other school parents, the people in my community, I look ‘normal’.   How do I know I look ‘normal’? Because when people eventually heard/hear about my… Continue reading “But you look so ‘NORMAL’!!!”… the need to redefine ‘NORMAL’ to bring HEALING.

#healing, Adult child, Feeling good, Heart, Life matters, Life medicine, love, Lucky me, My kind of people, Soul journey

“The Mountain Climbers” in APPRECIATION for ALL those who accompany us on the journey

She had no idea there was a mountain to climb before she was brought to its base. Even then she didn’t know much about it, but felt the journey begin amidst the firm but gentle clasp of the adult hands on either side of her, holding her two small soft hands, with dimpled knuckles, in… Continue reading “The Mountain Climbers” in APPRECIATION for ALL those who accompany us on the journey

#curveballs, Feeling crap, Life matters, O my world, One of those days

“Should I put down the pen?” – facing the dilemma… when HEALING for one, is HURTING for another…

After my illness, I instinctively knew that words were going to be very significant to how I got through my recovery.  I needed words to feed me hope, light and possibility if I was going to survive mentally and recover emotionally. It wasn’t me wanting to hear medical falsehoods about my future, but it was… Continue reading “Should I put down the pen?” – facing the dilemma… when HEALING for one, is HURTING for another…

Being empowered, Patient journey

Why the PATIENT needs to be treated as an EQUAL in our healthcare systems…

We’ve all been there at some point, been in that parent child type scenario with a fellow adult, where the other is leaving us in no doubt that they are the expert and we, the floundering, less important of the two. Alas our healthcare systems can be rife with this type of relationship, the doctor… Continue reading Why the PATIENT needs to be treated as an EQUAL in our healthcare systems…

#healing, Being empowered, Heart, Hope, Life matters, Life medicine, My kind of people, Patient journey

‘CLICK & CONNECT’… why finding your tribe, is a UNIQUE and VITAL lifeline in a struggle…

You know how it is, your life turns upside down, while everyone else’s looks rosier than ever. Your Facebook feed is full of smiling family pics from the latest staycation hotspot (is it Donegal this week, or has it moved back to Kerry?). You even notice the odd ‘Playa de something or other’ creeping into… Continue reading ‘CLICK & CONNECT’… why finding your tribe, is a UNIQUE and VITAL lifeline in a struggle…

#healing, Adult child, Heart, Life matters, love, Lucky me, Patient journey, The relations

The power of LOVE in healing…

When I regained consciousness in ICU after open heart surgery, bleary eyed and with a raging temperature from an infection that made me feel like I had landed at the gates of hell, the first thing I remember seeing was my Dad’s red coat. He was coming through a door, and talking to me, as… Continue reading The power of LOVE in healing…

Feeling crap, Heart, Hope, Life matters, Parent ponders, Patient journey

HEART FAILURE & MOTHERHOOD… and learning to juggle the two

When you find yourself describing yourself as ‘Thomas the tank engine’ in the morning, and ‘Salty’, the clapped-out engine, in the afternoon, it can mean only one thing, that you’re talking to a child about living with heart failure. We were having a lovely week away, my daughter and I, taking in the beach, visitor… Continue reading HEART FAILURE & MOTHERHOOD… and learning to juggle the two

#healing, Feeling good, Heart, Home, Ireland, Life medicine, Natures nurture, Soul journey, The Kingdom, The relations

When ‘FAMILIARITY’ breeds HEALING and not contempt!

I have just spent a week in my hometown. It’s been the first holiday here since Covid hit and since my marriage separation, so a lot of firsts. I have often said marriage breakdown is like a death without a body, and that, just like death, and the grief that comes with it, there can… Continue reading When ‘FAMILIARITY’ breeds HEALING and not contempt!

#healing, Being empowered, Divine Inspiration, Hope, Life matters, Patient journey, Soul journey

‘RISING STRONG’, yes Brené Brown, I think that’s the call, when cometh the life challenge

There are a lot of books written on overcoming life challenges, 5 steps this way, 10 steps that way, all trying to produce the complete, ‘over it with these strategies’ result. Having been through a few big life challenges myself (cardiac arrest and marriage breakdown, to name but two), I can see the appeal of… Continue reading ‘RISING STRONG’, yes Brené Brown, I think that’s the call, when cometh the life challenge

#healing, Being empowered, Feeling good, Heart, Hope, Ireland, Life medicine, Lucky me, Patient, Patient journey, Soul journey

HEALING through HELPING… and how it sows seeds for the better

When you’ve been through great pain, there is something within, that wants to help prevent that pain for another, or at least help them get through it, if indeed they have to bear it. It is hard to explain that feeling, or why it is there, but throughout the world, we hear this reaction from… Continue reading HEALING through HELPING… and how it sows seeds for the better

Being a woman, Curveballs, healing, Hope, Life matters, love, Love life, Soul journey

“CONSCIOUS UNCOUPLING”… sorry Gwyneth, I’m not as good as you at it… but I’m getting there!

We had been married for 20 years and together for 29, when our marriage ended. Teens to forty somethings, we had journeyed together from REM to Coldplay and through lots more debatable ‘good’ music choices in between. A marriage is a complex affair. It is a melting pot of history, dreams, intimacy, finances, sometimes children,… Continue reading “CONSCIOUS UNCOUPLING”… sorry Gwyneth, I’m not as good as you at it… but I’m getting there!

#healing, Feeling good, Life matters, Soul journey

Recipes for HAPPINESS…

I used to think happiness was about achieving landmark moments in life; the good job, the house, the baby, but life has taught me it’s less about the produce of, and more about the ingredients in, our everyday living that holds the key. It takes a while to get the ingredients for happiness right of… Continue reading Recipes for HAPPINESS…

#curveballs, #healing, Heart, Life matters, Life medicine, My medical world, Patient, Patient journey

COMPASSION, a vital medicine for the wounded…

When I was lying in the high dependency unit, post emergency open heart surgery, several years ago, grieving for my life that was, my children that I couldn’t see, and a future life that seemed, back then, so unlikely, I craved, more than anything, human connection. In the long, lonely hours of night, behind the… Continue reading COMPASSION, a vital medicine for the wounded…

#curveballs, #healing, Life matters, Life medicine, Natures nurture

THE HEALING TREE…

It wouldn’t be quite correct to say that I bought my house because of a tree, but it wouldn’t be far off either. It's a large eucalyptus tree, God knows how old, but very mature. The first day I saw it was an exciting day. We were house hunting for a while, when we came… Continue reading THE HEALING TREE…

#healing, Feeling good, Hairy medicine, Heart, Life medicine

The power of HAIRY MEDICINE…

I thought I was rescuing a dog, turned out the dog had arrived in my life to rescue me. I didn’t notice it for a while of course, didn’t spot that every time I came home from dropping the kids to school, that he led me straight to fun, rather than the dishwasher, his squeaky,… Continue reading The power of HAIRY MEDICINE…

#curveballs, Being a woman, Heart, Life matters, Parent ponders, Patient journey

When MOM’S GET SICK… the GUILT can be the worst bit

Holding my new-born and delighting in her arrival, I had no idea that my coronary artery was about to threaten our ability to ever have a relationship. Birth is such a time of newness, hope and promise, that the thoughts of death and ending are probably at their most alien. And for other good reasons… Continue reading When MOM’S GET SICK… the GUILT can be the worst bit

#healing, Being empowered, Hope, Life medicine, Soul journey

Feeling the FEAR but doing it anyway

I won’t lie, there were lots of nerves, pressing the publish button on my blog. What if’s were rampaging through my head…  most of them accompanied by some vision of a catastrophic outcome… ultimately all being about whether baring my soul, my struggles, my wounds and revealing how I try to overcome them would become… Continue reading Feeling the FEAR but doing it anyway

#curveballs, #healing, Hope, Life medicine, Patient journey, Soul journey

I now know that LIFE IS MEDICINE…

A few years ago I got a sudden illness and nearly died. With a new diagnosis, it was time to investigate everything that could help me get well. My journey led me to doctors and hospitals and afterwards to all kinds of advice and therapies. But healing, I discovered, wasn’t all about taking enough pills,… Continue reading I now know that LIFE IS MEDICINE…